Should a stepparent have the right to physically discipline your children or only verbally? Why or why not?

I recall a time growing up when my fathers wife wanted to take cookies away from me that “my mother” made for my god-sister as well as myself. All I remember was her snatching the bag of cookies away from me and then me pushing her as if she was a neighborhood kid on the streets my age (I had to be somewhere between 9 and 11) for touching something “my mother” made me. Next I yelled out for my god-sister to help me get them back (mind you she didn't)...which she should not have, so good for her for NOT doing so.

Well, when my dad returned, he went into the room with his wife and next he was walking so fast down that hallway it looked as if he ran a race in half a second and I swear to you all, I saw the middle of next week!!! For those who may not know what that is nor the meaning. Back in the day, parents would say; “I will slap, beat, or smack you into the middle of next week”...on that note...

Let me just say you young folks got it easy..... REALLLLLL easy!!!! 

However, I don't really think the disciplining should have come from my father, it should have come from her when certain issues took place, and LORD knows I gave her more then the law allowed....umph, umph, umph at myself. Anyway, back to what I was saying....It was very hard for me to respect her growing up, because I knew she wouldn't do anything, so I kept at it for reasons that I thought would change things. Nevertheless, as far as my dad doing all of the disciplining, it only made me dislike him more for reasons I already had/felt towards him.

On another note I have a friend who's 13 year old daughter hauled off and socked the ba-jesus out of her soon to be stepfather and drew blood I believe. Out of respect he contacted her mother to advise her of the ordeal and her reply was “handle your business and do what you gotta do or she wont respect you if you don't”. So in a nut shell...he tore that rump up and yes, so far, so good.... all is good on the home-front and she has gained respect for him to this very day. 

Each scenario is different with every child, home, incident etc, but as long as you both have a mutual agreement how the children should be disciplined rather verbal or physical then you stick with it and no changing the rules in the middle of the game if you will. If the child/children see you all flip flopping back 'n' forth all over the place on what is, what should be etc, etc...game over you all lost.

How do you prefer it?

Men how do you prefer your wife/girlfriend/lady friends' hairstyle and what makes you most attracted too that particular style over the other? 

Ladies how do you prefer your hair and of course why? (i.e. long, short, bald, natural, real, fake, weaves, braids, dreads, wigs etc)

 

If you can't grow it...sew it

If you can't achieve it...weave it

If you can't do it...glue it 

Hair has definitely come a very long way over time and as the saying goes....There's NO reason why a woman's crop should look horrific in this day and age.

Some of you may know or some of you may be very familiar with the "Black Woman's Hair Anthem". If you're not I would suggest since you missed it.....Chris Rock's movie "Good Hair"...is worth seeing...lol

Can you appreciate.....

Okay, so I had you and YOU know it!! If not all of you then most of you... DON'T lie...lol... 
If you're still confused then take just one more look below....

The Art Of A Drag Queen....

AND

NO not all men who perform in drag are gay, so for those who may have thought...Open up the book and read the contents in the chapter b4 you start judging ;-)

The term "drag queen" first appeared in print in 1941, though "drag" had already been a part of theater slang since at least the nineteenth century. It is often noted that the Stonewall riots on June 27, 1969 in New York City were inspired and led by drag queens, and, in part for this reason, drag queens remain a Western gay culture tradition at gay pride events ..

A drag queen is usually a man who dresses, and usually acts, like a caricature woman often for the purpose of entertaining or performing whether singing, lip-syncing, dancing, participating in events such as gay pride parades, drag pageants, or at venues such as cabarets and discotheques. There are many kinds of drag artists and they vary greatly, from professionals who have starred in movies to people who just try it once. Drag queens also vary by class and culture and can vary even within the same city.  

Although many drag queens are presumed to be gay men or transgender people, there are drag artists of all genders and sexualities who do drag for various reasons.

Drag is here to stay rather you like it or accept it...

They've made their way into videos and most of you couldn't and still cant tell the difference...If you missed it you better look at it again...

They have their own television shows that people rush to tune into on a regular...I cant wait until the new season. (see below for details)

You know they've come along way when they can hold their own next to that icon fashionable barbie doll....

IF U CANT LOVE YO’SELF HOW THE HELL U GONNA LOVE SOMEBODY ELSE….U BETTA’ WORK!!!~~~ Rupaul

http://www.LogoTV.com/ for full episodes, behind the scenes content and MORE!

Season 3 coming January 2011

#RPDR on Twitter:
http://twitter.com/RuPaulsDragRace

 

"Extravaganza"

Workin' it....at age 50!!

Why is it when people get saved or find themselves closer to their GOD and/or church, they find EVERY flaw in others by calling them evil, or bad or they need to be saved, sanctified, and holy all of a sudden like them? ~~ Anonymous 33 year old Atheist

We all have 1 appointment with JUDGMENT!! 'n' trust!!! The God I serve will NOT be conferencing YOU in during “MY” appointment; so allow “my” business 2 stay mine 'n' your business 2 stay yours until that time....“AMEN”!!!!

Act like a Christian in any circumstance. Follow Jesus' (the Son of God and also God) greatest commandment: Love God completely and everybody even if they treat you wrongly whether you know them or not. Jesus said "love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you" Jesus says in John 15:13, "I have given you an example, that as I have done, so should you do." 

 1Sam 15:23 For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the LORD, he hath also rejected thee from being king.

Gal 5:19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
Gal 5:20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,
Gal 5:21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

Mat 5:11 Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.

Mat 7:17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit.

Mat 12:34 O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. 

 

****Note**** 

Its not what you say its how you say it, so please say it within the guidelines of this page...Thank You

 

How often have you heard some say; “that person is white, but talks black or that person is black, but talks white?

I thought it was proper grammar vs. slang?? 

I didn’t know color had anything to do with the way someone spoke… 

Grammar is the set of structural rules that govern the composition of sentences, phrases, and words in any given natural language.

It is often used to identify with one's peers and, although it may be common among young people, it is used by people of all ages, gender, color, race and/or social groups. 

 

Has someone you know/known been stereotyped by this stigma or even yourself for that matter? If so, how has it made you feel or them feel when they’ve encountered this? Better yet, are you one of those people that would tell a person something like this? If so, why??

Ladies…you find out that you are not his only girl/woman.

Do you stay with him as his:

S.L.H./Mistress for whatever reason you may have, 

move on to the next one, 

try the celibate thing, 

or 

do you stay only because a child is involved with or without the sexual activities?

Remember you have the option below to post anonymous or press the reaction just under for feedback.....Thank You

Fathers, just because you may not live in the home with your child/children does NOT mean you cant do your part as a father from the outside…Mothers, just because the child/children's father is not in the (your) home, does NOT mean you have full control over the child/children...does anyone agree/disagree...Why?

I get so sick 'n' tired of being sick 'n' tired of the so call Fathers who use this excuse...amph (let me clear my throat, so you can understand the words that are coming out of my mouth)...you know I had to right....okay, but back to what I was saying....LOL....

The lame excuse we mothers often hear the fathers tell the child/children is, “I didn't come around to pick you up, see you or visit you, because of your mom”...WTH??? Is that what some of you all do to try to get back in the child/childrens good graces? Father's will often tell the child/children , “I can't stand her or I don't like her or we didn't/don't get along” etc, etc...Now look-a-here; I don't think you all were saying that when you were behind close doors saying woo-woo, woo-woo woo. Listen, you may be able to get away with that on your first child, but when YOU have a another baby by someone else and they say the same darn thing excuse me, excuse me let me once again clear my throat!!! WHAT is that saying about YOU as a father? In my best Arsenio Hall voice... “one of the questions that make you go hmmmmmmmm?????”

Father's you have a right to see your child/children NO MATTER WHAT!!! I don't care if she is just shy of whatever coo-coo's nest you say she flew from or if she is just complete 51/50. You are NOT obligated to deal with nor carry on a side relationship with the mother, but you ARE obligated to do right by your child/children period point blank, that's it 'n' that's all...There are laws in place that not even a mother can cross...right is right and wrong is wrong.... If you can lay up to make a baby, then take time out and think with the right head this go around to know as well as learn your rights. STOP with all the excuses and exercise your rights to do right by your child/children or what's in the BEST interest of the child/children....Any guy can make a baby all day everyday, but it takes a MAN to stand up and be that child's daddy AND father......you better know it!!

The measure of a man is his FAMILY....even his child/children who may not live in the same home with him.....xoxo 

Hey ladies.... Now fair is fair, so I'm getting ready to speak my peace about us like it or not..You either love it or hate it, but it is what it is, so here we go. I get so sick 'n' tired of being sick 'n' tired of the so call Mothers who use this excuse and you know I cleared my throat for this one... “ (with my hands on hip like some of you often do with the head going every which way but at a stand still) he ain't paying me no money/child support to see “my” child” or “he has another *itch so *uck him and that ho, ho, ho” in my best-est best Santa Claus voice...LOL ...just trying to lift the mood...

Look, rather you like it or not the word is “OUR” children NOT “my” gosh-be-darn-it! Go into court if you want to with that mess and a REAL judge will correct you right off the top as he/she should!! I watch my court shows, let alone seen it at first hand when my ex-husband believe it or not tried to utilize that “my” mess in court. That judge ripped him a whole new a$$hole, and he NO longer sings “my my my, my my my” in my best Johnny Gill singing voice.... Nevertheless, so what if he has someone else!!! What in tar-nation does that have to do with your child/children seeing “THEIR” father?? If your child is in harms way then deal with it in court, put it on paper if that's the issue at hand! If you say it's as bad as it is, then a judge would have no problem adhering to your case and giving the father “LIMITED" or "SUPERVISED” visitation or even “NONE” at all right??? or is it YOU just being selfish or hurt from the outcome??? I understand mama's baby, daddy's maybe, but some of us take it too far off the Richter scale.

Mothers you DO NOT have a right to keep the child/children away from their father for a non justified reason and NO we are not speaking of being justified by you based on hurt/mixed emotions or even jealousy swaying your decision. Children grow up and ask questions and when that famous question arises “why didn't you let me see my father”...ummmm what lie or excuse are you going to give??? I'm just saying... A child/children are NOT pawns for you to dangle when you see fit just because YOU gave birth. If you're in doubt of your child/children being with their father; then you should have gave that more thought before laying down and opening up your lips to say ahhhhhhh....

Proverbs 31:28 Her children rise up and call her blessed, her husband also and he praise her..(in this case her child's father)..Be that Virtuous Woman your child/children see........xoxo

What advice or remedies can you give in regards to Menopause?

There comes a time when a woman says; I don't want no more babies whatever is in the inside to make it happen...take it out or girl  honey child I will be glad when I stop have menstrual cycles...whatever is in the inside to make it happen...make it fall out if need be...

Men are usually hiding in the dog house around this time or everything becomes yes dear...Let alone wondering WTH?? did I do now?? or why must I suffer the ordeal also???? see... >>>>>> lol

The average age for women to have their last period is about 51. However, it's normal for menopause to occur any time from age 40 to 59. A woman often goes through menopause at about the same age as her mother. If you stop having periods before the age of 40, your doctor can do a blood test to see if you're actually going through menopause.

Common symptoms of menopause include:

• Heart pounding or racing
• Hot flashes
• Night sweats
• Skin flushing
• Sleeping disorders such as insomnia
  

Other symptoms of menopause may include:

• Decreased interest in sex, possibly decreased response to sexual stimulation
• Forgetfulness in some women
• Irregular menstrual periods
• Mood swings including irritability, depression, and anxiety
• Urine leakage
• Vaginal dryness and painful sexual intercourse
• Vaginal infections
• Joint aches and pains
• Irregular heartbeat such as palpitations
  
  
  
   
  

If you had one wish for someone else other than yourself what would it be and why?

Rather its when you're blowing out candles on a cake....

or picking a dandelion closing your eyes...taking that breath to blowwwwww.... lets not 4get the BIG smile that came afterwards...

or well...we all at some point dreamed/fantasied about finding one, so that we could rub away.... 

I understand rights and laws but I’m going to throw this out there just because….

 

A crack addict has lets say 6 kids already on/in the system and is currently still utilizing drugs and still having more babies. 

When is it okay for the state to step in and make that choice to tie her tubes for her??? When she has just given birth to say the 10^th child????? 

I just don’t get it???? ~~ Anonymous Aunt who has 3 of the 6 kids

HIGH SCHOOL RIVAL GAMES

"Crenshaw High” or Dorsey…….

"John Burroughs Senior High” or Burbank.....

"Hamilton High” or Fairfax...

Name your high school rival and any funniest, strangest, scariest, and/or weirdest, thing or things that happened during/around homecoming games or any game events for that matter?