Grown Folks....hmmmm...if u say so....

Grown men who are still mama boys 

Grown women 

who are still daddy lil girls (spoiled brats) 

Post your thoughts? ~~ Crystal

UUUUgggghhhhh....it annoys the crap out of me!!!

Have you ever experienced a simple little thing that a person does (usually someone in you household) that keeps doing the same thing over and over again? Even though you have brought it to their attention? 

My little thing is "not putting a fresh roll of toilet tissue on the roller". It bugs the H**L out of me. 

 



What little thing bugs the h**L out of you? What did you do about it?~~ Anthony Spikes

Does Size Really Matter These Days????

What's considered.....

too obese and/or too thin 

for a man, woman or even a child? ~~ A. J.

Do you recall a funny discipline story from way back when??

We all know the old way to discipline a child would be considered child abuse today, but you all heard of stories when some adult washed a youth’s mouths out with soap if they used foul language. Do you recall a strange/funny way your parent disciplined you or any adult disciplined another child?

Where did they get that from???

You notice your child/teen comes home with something you know you did not purchase. Do you not say anything thinking it came from a friend or do you question where they got it? My husband said I'm over reacting it probably came from a friend. ~~ New Mommy

Marrying someone from a different culture....HELP ME....Sonia

 

If you are or were dating/married to someone outside of your culture. How difficult is/was it to accept/adapt to any barriers if any?

(Sorry I have to stay partial....I don't know how to speak without heavy emotions, being I was married to an islander man (lets leave it at that)...so members please help this person out in the best way you can with any positive feedback, solutions..etc, etc....Thank you)

If It Happened With One Of Yours In Junior High or High School...How Would You Deal With The Matter At Hand??

What if your junior high or high school daughter came home and told you she was a few months pregnant? 

What if your son came home and told you he got a girl pregnant but wasn’t sure he was the father? Then told you that if he wasn’t the father he wanted to be anyway with or without your approval? 

What if your child/teen came to you with a confession of having or had multiple sex partners...Would you stick your chest out and applaud your son for having swag or freak out at your daughters promiscuous behavior?

What's your favorite inspirational quote?

Sometimes we just need a scripture, a few words, a sentence, a poem etc, etc to get our day started and/or to keep us going throughout the day...Please share your inspirational quote that motivates you, that may inspire someone else in need...

When the battle is tough 'n' you feel like the world is coming to 'n' end.... Remember the battle is NOT yours!!! Say “Peace Be Still” then say it again; then 4 confirmation say it again LOUDER!!! Give it 2 HIM, but really give it 2 HIM. STOP trying 2 take it back when you feel HE isn't moving fast enough 4 u ~~ Ayisha Walker

Supporting Them All For "EVERYTHING" That They Do For Us....xoxo

HOO-RAH!!! to our Marines....

"Once A Marine Always A Marine"

YOO-HOO!!! to our Air Force....

"Aim High" 

HOO-YAH!!! to our Navy....

"Non Sibi Sed Patriae"

HOO-AAH!!! to our Army....

"Be All You Can Be In The Army"

HOO-YAH!!! to our Coast Guard....

 "Semper Paratus"

 

I'm sure a few to many slogans have changed over the years, so feel free to add them all here...Also feel free to recognizing our troops anyway you like rather its past, present and/or future of the men & woman who put their lives on the line for us all everywhere....xoxo

Your thoughts, a poem, inspirational quotes, your living testimony, your pain, your fears, a family member or even a friend....Please post whatever your heart tells you to in regards to today's topic

Is it okay for a man to stay at home and take care of the kids without being heckled while the woman goes out to work in this day and age oppose to the past?

With the recession most dads are finding it rewarding to stay at home to take care of the children while mom is off to work....Now they say; its the men who have more patience than us woman...right? So, they say...lol

Nevertheless, fathers can certainly be as nurturing as mothers, so that old traditional cave man thinking; woman should be barefoot, pregnant and in the kitchen and men as bread winners, was dead many, many, moons ago.

This is definitely a new dawn and a new day of time and we have fast forwarded, so far that nobody even pathams the thought of that anymore!

I believe overall, you have to sit down and see if its a need for both parents to work, or if one should stay home to take care of the child/children. You have to discuss the family income, hours, time, health, dental insurance etc, etc

Whatever your choice...remember, children didn't ask to be born. Its at least one of the parents in the home who should care for the needs of their child/children during their early years. Parenthood isn't forever, so you may want to rethink how often someone else is constantly and consistently taking care of your child/children, rather its day care or a part/full time nanny.

http://money.usnews.com/money/blogs/alpha-consumer/2009/6/26/the-rise-of-the-stay-at-home-dad 

Please post your thoughts on forbidden relationships between a staff member and a inmate.

 

 Will it become a lasting relationship or will it eventually crumble, because of the secrecy of how the relationship began? ~~ G

 

Who are we to stop love from happening when the opposite sex are in ones company on a regular like Leila Fay-Baker, a Wisconsin correctional officer? (Not to say it can't happen with the same sex).....

  

 However, is there a line you just DON'T cross when you're at work like female prison guard who gets convicted of having sex with a male inmate?

Addiction...Is there many people on this, effected by it and how do they deal with it??? ~~ Adrian N.

On what you're asking...right?? Define addiction?? Addiction comes in so many forms...so my apologies...I forgot to ask the person on what?? So, for the sake of things we will just use drugs...any drug for that matter....

 

There are approximately a hundred to a million people in different parts of the world who die per year from drugs directly or indirectly, rather its from money, purchasing, or an over dose.

I have a female friend who is married to a male counter part so to speak for the sake of this page... He is emotionally abusive and NOW, that has turned into physical abuse!! I tried speaking with my friend, however, she's withdrawn from our friendship. I'm concerned for her, as well as her children and understand I am NOT judgmental at all whatsoever. I too was abused as well as my mother, so I'm one who can truly use the word and say; I sympathize with her all to well. ~~ Anonymous

AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE...YOU WERE TOLD...KEEP YOUR HANDS 2 YOURSELF!!!!

 

Domestic violence/abuse can happen to anyone, at any given time. Ask yourself how often is it overlooked, or the person makes up an excuse like I tripped over the child/children's toy(s), or if I wouldn't have done this, that person would not have abused me. Then you just have good ol'e DENIAL.

This is ALL TRUE rather it's psychological, and/or physical. Emotional abuse is often minimized, but it can be the most detrimental, since they leave deep harsh lasting scars upon your heart. It feels like the pain will NEVER go away. Unfortunately, believe it or not some who have been emotionally abused sometimes say they would rather experience the physical form of abuse or they create self-inflictions upon themselves, to hide or mask the inside hurt/pain.

One important bit of information we all have to remember is, we can't make anyone leave. Why, well, because often times they just go right back!! People stay for many reasons unknown to us, because we're not the ones going through. One of my most used motto's is; when they get sick 'n' tired of being sick 'n' tired then that's when they will see that light ahead.

All we can do is be there for support and guidance until we have given and/or supported all we have too offer. However, a person can only be there enduring so much of what a person may be dealing with. Some may think that's not so, and a person is supposed to be there every second, all the time until they come around to see that light so to speak. No, not so... Some who are abused will often call that good friend every second, minute, hour, day, week or even once a month. That person has a life as well, rather its work, children, school, meetings, etc and abuse happens at any given time and/or day. The support line may not always be there to answer or drop what they're doing to tend to that abused person need(s).

This is when you have to give even more options for that person to seek help or offer a variety of a support system other then yourself, but you have to be careful with that. That person may not enjoy everyone knowing, being that it is an embarrassing situation. At some point, you may have to sometimes resort to good ol'e tough love, rather they or you like it or not...

A person who's abused tends to hear what they want to hear or interprets your views in wrong ways leaving you puzzled as all get out. It's frustrating to say the least and may even hurt, but some say you just have to sit back and watch the show for free from a distance and pray, pray, pray and pray some more. Others will say get involved and they may hate you now, but will appreciate it in the end.

Definitely, seek your own support system or prayer circle for the sake of your friend or family member, as well as yourself, because honestly.... what they're going through...guess what?? You're going through apart of that with them and its a looooonnnng emotional roller-coaster ride until you decide to get off, get on later, or stay off for good. Remember, some ride longer then others and some ride until they can, but the “choice is yours”. If you ride for awhile, doesn't mean that you love the person less then someone who may ride with them until the wheels fall off. 

Whatever, choice(s) the abused person makes or you make in supporting them...we all just hope and/or pray for the BEST in the end/long run....especially if a child/children are involved...

Remember, abusers are very good at controlling and manipulating their victims. People who have been emotionally abused or battered are depressed, drained, scared, ashamed, and confused. They need help to get out, yet they’ve often been isolated from their family and friends. By picking up on the warning signs and offering support, you can help them escape an abusive situation and begin healing.

Here are some Do and Don't advice below:

Do:

• Ask if something is wrong.
• Express concern.
• Listen and validate.
• Offer help.
• Support his or her decisions, but sometimes you may have to go over their head.
  

Don’t:

• Wait for him or her to come to you!!
• Judge or blame!!
• Pressure him or her, but remember you may have to go over their head!!
• Give advice or until they ask and offer solutions!!
• Place conditions on your support and dont back down after you have given them!!
  

Here are some signs below, that you may want to ask yourself rather being the abused, the person trying to help the abused, or even the abuser trying to find out if they have an abusive problem:

Do you:

• FEEL ANXIOUS OR AFRAID OF YOUR PARTNER MUCH OF THE TIME?
• AVOID CERTAIN TOPICS OUT OF FEAR OF ANGERING YOUR PARTNER?
• FEEL THAT YOU CAN’T DO ANYTHING RIGHT?
• BELIEVE THAT YOU DESERVE TO BE HURT OR MISTREATED?
• WONDER IF YOU’RE THE ONE WHO IS CRAZY?
• FEEL EMOTIONALLY NUMB OR HELPLESS?
• GO ALONG WITH EVERYTHING YOUR PARTNER SAYS AND DOES?
• CHECK IN OFTEN WITH YOUR WHEREABOUTS?

• RECEIVE FREQUENT, HARASSING PHONE CALLS FROM YOUR PARTNER ABOUT YOUR WHEREABOUTS OR WHO YOU ARE WITH?
• HAVE FREQUENT INJURIES, WITH THE EXCUSE OF “ACCIDENTS?”
• FEEL RESTRICTED FROM SEEING FAMILY AND FRIENDS?

• RARELY GO OUT IN PUBLIC WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR PARTNER?
• HAVE LIMITED ACCESS TO MONEY, CREDIT CARDS, OR THE CAR?
• HAVE VERY LOW SELF-ESTEEM?

• SHOW MAJOR PERSONALITY CHANGES THAT OTHERS HAVE POINTED OUR TO YOU, IF YOU CANT SEE THEM YOURSELF?
• FEEL DEPRESSED, ANXIOUS, OR SUICIDAL?
• LASH OUT ON THE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU THE MOST?
• LIE TO YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY ABOUT YOUR ABUSE?

Does Your partner:

• HUMILIATE YOU OR YELL AT YOU?
• CRITICIZE YOU AND PUT YOU DOWN?
• TREAT YOU SO BADLY THAT YOU’RE EMBARRASSED FOR YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY TO SEE?
• IGNORE OR PUT YOU DOWN, YOUR OPINIONS OR ACCOMPLISHMENTS?
• BLAME YOU FOR HIS OWN ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR OR BEING ARRESTED/JAILED OVER AND OVER AGAIN?
• SEE YOU AS PROPERTY OR A SEX OBJECT, RATHER THAN AS A PERSON?

• HAVE A BAD AND UNPREDICTABLE TEMPER?
• HURT YOU, OR THREATEN TO HURT OR KILL YOU?
• THREATEN TO TAKE YOUR CHILDREN AWAY OR HARM THEM?
• THREATEN TO COMMIT SUICIDE IF YOU LEAVE?
• FORCE YOU TO HAVE SEX, BLAME YOU, YELL AT YOU OR GET MAD IF YOU DONT HAVE SEX WITH THEM?
• DESTROY YOUR BELONGINGS OR BELONGINGS IN THE HOME, BUT NEVER THEIR BELONGINGS?

• ACT EXCESSIVELY JEALOUS AND POSSESSIVE?
• CONTROL WHERE YOU GO OR WHAT YOU DO?
• KEEP YOU FROM SEEING YOUR FRIENDS OR FAMILY, RATHER ITS STAYING HOME, VISITING THEIR HOME TO GOING OUT ON THE TOWN?
• LIMIT YOUR ACCESS TO MONEY, THE PHONE, OR THE CAR?
• CONSTANTLY CHECK UP ON YOU?
• HAVE OTHER RELATIONSHIPS YOU KNOW ABOUT?
• SPEND TIME AWAY FROM YOU AND/OR THE KIDS?
• SMOKE OR DRINKS ON A REGULAR?
• HAVE LACK OF RESPECT FOR YOUR FAMILY OR FRIENDS?
• SPEND LONG HOURS AWAY FROM HOME?

I saw this posted on a link, just when I was just about to close this out....

“If you suspect that someone you know is being abused, SPEAK UP!!!!!!! If you’re hesitating—telling yourself that it’s none of your business, you might be wrong, or the person might not want to talk about it—keep in mind that expressing your concern will let the person know that you care and may even SAVE his or her life.”

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