You notice your child/teen comes home with something you know you did not purchase. Do you not say anything thinking it came from a friend or do you question where they got it? My husband said I'm over reacting it probably came from a friend. ~~ New Mommy
First off I am a single parent so I have an perspective that is governed by that it comes with what I think is a advantage that I can’t pass the buck but I am the first and last line of defense and it’s much harder for my kids to pull the wool over my eyes. It’s trade and tricky deal to question your kids. Very easy it can be seen as a recrimination or trust issue but none the less I always ask when I see something I didn’t buy. Friends share games or barrow them, as well as toys and so forth. Being a parent too often is a job that says I am here to get in your face more than be your friend I want to be but I am the gatekeeper of your future and options and that role has to be seen early on by both parent and child as primary. Kids need boundaries and I believe honestly it is better to error out of caution than out of indifference. The lost art of tact is more over valuable of all as a parent. How we question or ask them will make all the difference. Sample put ask them but let them know it because you love them and are more interested in them and if your truly paying attention I think that sout shines anything else to them.
ReplyDeleteI start in elementary and I check backpacks and ask where did you get it? When they say my friend gave it to me. I respond does his/her parent know they gave it away? Take it back and ask and if they take it back then they were NOT supposed to give it away or you took it!!
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