If you are or were dating/married to someone outside of your culture. How difficult is/was it to accept/adapt to any barriers if any?
(Sorry I have to stay partial....I don't know how to speak without heavy emotions, being I was married to an islander man (lets leave it at that)...so members please help this person out in the best way you can with any positive feedback, solutions..etc, etc....Thank you)
Very important subject!
ReplyDeleteI am all for crossing all the barriers and differences where there is love, whether romantic or platonic. Yes it is extremely hard to mix your culture with another one, but it is possible, and it is worth it. If we ev...er want to reach peace, we have to let other cultures in our hearts. And obviously if there is romantic sense of love between two people they have to work it out until they can accept everything about them.
I met a person who was in love with someone from a different culture. Now to make it more complicated: they were both guys, meaning they are gay. To make it even harder- BOTH of their families don't accept that. And to make it nearly impossible: one is an Israeli Jewish guy, and the other one is a Muslim Arab guy. Yep. None of them ever believed this could happen.... But it did. They met in a party in Jerusalem and they didn't think it will go very far. They've been together for three years now (as long as I know), when they thought it wouldn't last for more than a week. You see, despite all the stereotypes, all the differences, all the hate that's being fed to their brains from their childhood to each other and all the other stuff- love conquers all, when it's true love. Their families don't accept them, not for being gay nor for "sleeping with the enemy", but they made a choice. A difficult one. It's always a dilemma.
But that case makes you realize, it's not just about love.... It's about defeating ignorance, it's about bringing peace, equality and being true to what you feel, however difficult it may be. We need more people like them, who would be true to their hearts and not be blinded by hate or denial. And I wish their families would accept them one day, as well as the society.
And much luck to you Sonia, whoever you're marrying and whatever your difficulties might be. I hope love will win against all odds in your case too =]