I'm sure we've all heard “it starts from home”...right? Well, many parents have often explained to their kids “do unto others as you would have them do unto”. Then you had/have the old school parents who told their kids “if some bully hits you; then you better knock fire from they azz; or you have to deal with me when you get home”!! If you didn't stand up to that bully or didn't win the fight oooo-weee... you knew that was an instant double azz whoopin' when you stepped one foot through that door.
Of course times have changed and drawing first blood against these bullies is no longer an option now days. Kids are fighting back with weapons, multiple kids jumping one child, or even going as far as killing that child rather accidental or not. As much as we parent(s) would like to know our kids every where about...our eyes just can NOT be every where and these kids know it.
Stay in communication with your kids please. Sit down with them at the dinner table or even family time away from home and if at home without the television. Speak with your kids on a daily or even every other day base about them AND their friends!! Get to know them, talk with their parents get involved all the way. By communicating you just may be able to find out if your child is being bullied or better yet; you just may find...its your child that's the bully. There is nothing wrong with allowing other adults to discipline your children just like the good ol'e days. No, I'm not saying allow other adults to spank your child if that's not what you believe in. However, I know you must also remember the other ol'e saying “It Takes A Village To Raise A Child”, so this is when the community/parents needs to relie on one another. Remember your parents used to tell you “my eyes are everywhere”. I didn't know what that meant then, but as I grew older I tell mine the same exact thing. Trust I know about it before it even happens...we parents have to stay no longer 10 steps ahead, but more like 5 times that... ;-D
http://www.education.com/magazine/article/Warning_Signs_that_Your_Child/
http://www.stopstudentbullying.org/carl.cfm
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2010/07/100708160937.htm
http://www.facebook.com/saynotobullying?ref=ts
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/19/technology/personaltech/19basics.html?_r=1&partner=rss&emc=rss
http://www.news.com.au/couriermail/story/0,23739,26791721-5019459,00.html
I agree that it should start from home. "Train up a child in the way he/she shall go, and he/she will NEVER depart from it". I tell my children don't start it, but sure enough u try your best to finish it. I understand the zero school tolerance. However, schools NEED to understand; if your child didn't throw first punch, that child should have the right to DEFEND themselves. Often these days the parent(s) could careless about their child fighting, so it is OUR responsibility as a community rather we like it or not.
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